The Factors

No, is a strong word. Yes, is a stronger word. Yes is stronger, because it not only changes the person you say yes to, but it changes you as well. Will you help your friend with their problem/project? If the answer is no, than your friend goes away in the same position, as do you. If the answer is yes, the person leaves with an improved position, and it changes your outlook as well. It changes your schedule, it changes your relationships, it changes your reputation, and it changes what I like to call, your Yes Factor. 

What is the Yes Factor? Every time you say yes to someone who needs your help, or desires your attention your Yes Factor goes up a little bit. Its the ability to say yes, to stop what you want to do, and give your attention to someone else. You will find as your Yes Factor goes up, you will snap less quickly at your siblings, be a more appreciated friend, learn more from the things you say yes to, and last but not least, you will find yourself growing more humble, and less selfish. You will begin to think of others above yourself, and you will slowly begin to change into a servant of all.

Now, if there is a Yes Factor, there simply must be a No Factor. The No Factor, instead of referring to every time you say no, refers to the importance of saying no in the first place. The No Factor is vital to have. Will you hit that person that you are angry with? No. Will you help someone who should be working alone? No. Will you start another project on top of the 15 you already have going? No. Will you use those drugs? No. The list goes on. Which all brings me to, The Discernment Factor.

The Discernment Factor, brings the other two factors together into one very important conclusion. To have the discernment to say yes or no depending on the situation, is a true gift. Not all of us will say yes as much as we should, or say no the the things that we should say no to. But by the grace of God, and through the guidance of his word, we should always be going up in our Discernment Factor, so that when tough yes or no situations come upon us, we will be able to use our Discernment Factor to make the best decision possible.